When Writing Becomes Frustrating

Writing is really, really, really difficult sometimes. Most of the time, in fact.

It’s frustrating when you don’t know where the plot is heading.

It’s frustrating when you put an excerpt of your book out there, and people don’t find it interesting.

It’s frustrating when you stare at your laptop for three hours, only to have a few paragraphs to show for it.

Writing isn’t easy.

But it’s not supposed to be. It’s supposed to make you pull your hair out a little. It’s supposed to challenge you. It’s meant to drive you insane sometimes. (Hey, tons of famous writers were cray-cray.)

This hair-pulling, though, allows you to grow as a writer. The frustration you have when your plot line makes no sense leads you down the rewriting path, which far too many authors skip over.

The frustration you have when people yawn at your book teaches you to learn more about style, tone, pacing, and characterization—it teaches you how to become a better writer so that those yawns turn to gasps.

The frustration you have when writer’s block hits you like a freight train forces you to take a breather and clear your mind so that you can come back to it with fresh eyes.

Your frustration with writing makes you a better writer.

Writing will test your patience. But it doesn’t mean you should stop writing. It means that you need to find a solution to the problem you’re having, and keep writing. You need to try again. And try some more.

You need to fall in love with writing again.

And the only way you can get past this vexation and get back to having a relationship with writing again is if you remember why you loved it in the first place.

Did you fall in love with writing because it was the only way to express your feelings?

Did you fall in love because your imagination couldn’t be contained?

Did you write so you could escape?

Because of how it made you feel?

Because you wanted to tell a story unlike any other?

To connect with someone?

To connect with yourself?

Something once attracted you to writing, and somehow you’ve lost sight of that. If you’re struggling to finish a book or a story, go back to why you fell in love with writing in the first place.

Go back, so you can fall in love with writing one more time.

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An expert editor, seasoned writer, and author-centric marketer, Shayla Raquel works one-on-one with authors and business owners every day. A lifelong lover of books, she has edited over 300 books and has launched several Amazon bestsellers for her clients. Her award-winning blog teaches new and established authors how to write, publish, and market their books. She is the author of the Pre-Publishing Checklist, The Rotting (in Shivers in the Night), and her novel-in-progress, The Suicide Tree. She lives in Oklahoma with her two dogs, Chanel and Wednesday.